August 23, 2013


there is no doubt that Evald wants to look just like his big brother. but i don't know if that's why he won't cut his hair. he was only two years old when i took him to the hairdresser for the first time. it was terrible. he cried and cried. he actually picked his hair up from the floor and tried to put it back on. it felt nothing but wrong and we didn't go back for a long while. Mikkel never freaked out like that, but was never happy with new cuts either. 'this just doesn't feel like me, mama'. so these two boys have long, blond, messy hair. and we think they look great. the funny thing is that a lot of grown ups don't agree with that and think of it as a pity. a number of times relatives, friends of the family or even complete strangers have asked the boys when they are planning on cutting their hair. makes me wonder why girls get compliments for the same hair that on Mikkel and Evald is by so many seen as unpractical and unnecessary. the crazy thing is, that when this from time to time is verbalized by someone, i feel so embarrassed. like i failed parenting school or something. maybe i really should be proud. because when Evald was mistaken for a girl the other day he didn't care. 'it is okay to look different', he said.  

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  1. I know about everything you just wrote. The feeling some people can give you. But my son, who is 8, is reacting exactly like your Evald. Hurra for strong and beautiful boys!!

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    1. i'm so glad to hear that. an yes, hurra!

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  2. I have read your whole blog and I really enjoyed your little lovely moments and your photographs!
    you already have a one more follower!

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    1. i was so happy to read your comment today. and also to discover your beautiful blog!

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  3. Oh it's funny that you wrote that because, when I saw pics of your boys, I wondered if it was "cool" for boys of that age in Norway to sport long hair!
    For many years my son used to wear rather long hair (less than your boys though) because at first we thought it suited him so well and then it was ok for him too. But, as he begun getting bigger and going to school there was a lot of pressure on him from the other kids, saying he looked like a girl etc. And finally he wanted them very short to have peace and, after some bargaining, we preferred to let him do it. I thought to myself on this occasion that parenting is such a delicate mission. We have tried to teach our son that he was beautiful like that too and that he didn't have to mind those comments. Still, if it was painful for him, who were we to oblige him to suffer just because of some silly hair issue just in the name of a principle?

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    1. yeah, i hear you on that. as long as Evald and Mikkel are happy with long hair it's fine. but i do ask them from time to time if they wanna cut it shorter. they never say yes though :-)

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