there is no doubt that Evald wants to look just like his big brother. but i don't know if that's why he won't cut his hair. he was only two years old when i took him to the hairdresser for the first time. it was terrible. he cried and cried. he actually picked his hair up from the floor and tried to put it back on. it felt nothing but wrong and we didn't go back for a long while. Mikkel never freaked out like that, but was never happy with new cuts either. 'this just doesn't feel like me, mama'. so these two boys have long, blond, messy hair. and we think they look great. the funny thing is that a lot of grown ups don't agree with that and think of it as a pity. a number of times relatives, friends of the family or even complete strangers have asked the boys when they are planning on cutting their hair. makes me wonder why girls get compliments for the same hair that on Mikkel and Evald is by so many seen as unpractical and unnecessary. the crazy thing is, that when this from time to time is verbalized by someone, i feel so embarrassed. like i failed parenting school or something. maybe i really should be proud. because when Evald was mistaken for a girl the other day he didn't care. 'it is okay to look different', he said.